For many years I have struggled with my health and wellness. From the outside I am put together, fit and “well”. The reality is that I have struggled. I have strugged with skin conditions, hormone inbalances, immune suppression, and digestive problems. I have spent close to $10,000 on testing, medications, doctor visitis and supplements. I have had all sorts of diagnoses: gluten intollerance (which was then negated), candida, allergy to the female hormones, PMDD, high recommendation that I do not have children, and the list goes on.
About 5 years ago I was sick of everything and I quit going to doctors all together. I take care of myself and I figured my body would eventually just balance.
I experience highs, lows, frustration, saddness and insecurities. These are all symptoms you can’t see. From the time I was 12, I had a never ending menstrual cycle. To this day my hormones are all over the place, so I’ve chosen to go with an IUD. Even with this, I still experience a cycle.
This year I have gone down the path of working to heal my life and try different experiements. My goal is to optimize my human performance in the gym and in my every day life. Personal development school, hiring coaches, trying new doctors and all sorts of things to live as long and as healhty as possible.
I can tell my gut health is not the best and I am consuming soemthing my body is adverse to because I have what I call “Cheetah Print”. You can see in this picture. There are some spots on my neck and chest. I call this my cheetah print.
The cheetah print covers most of my body. It changes colors depending on the time of year, the clothes I wear and things I eat. I’ve had them on and off most of my life. If I do a Candida cleanse, they can go away but that’s just as awful three months of just eating green beans, clay and protein.
I also recently learned that this is hereditary, a few of my aunts also have cheetah print. I’m lucky right now that it has not spread to my face. I do a lot of skin care because I have acne.
I experience a lot of anxiety and insecurities because of the spots. Ego sometimes takes over the human form and I just want the outside to match the inside.
I realize that the root cause is likely something I’m consuming. Now I and this platform are going on the journey of research, experiments and progress.
Here goes everything.
And so it is.
Religion is not an enemy. It is a structure that gets us from point A to B and can bring humans a form of enlightenment. As all humans rise in this collective consciousness of unity old systems are weakening. Many of the systems created were at a time in humanity that order was needed for survival.
“Righting” or “wronging” religion is judging the way that human has chosen to rise. You have the choice to drop the judgement and stand in just loving and knowing that each human will find their path.
The enlightenment and the rising that we are experiencing is humanity entering into this true function of love.
Each human is on a spectrum towards enlightenment and the rising.
That collective consciousness is shifting from religion to just being. Religion has always given humans a place to come together. Humans are now stepping outside of the bounds from which the rules constrain to a place where we can simply just exist and find the nature of which humans can connect.
By nature we judge and it takes courage to stand outside of those judgments. Life is outside of us. The stories that run through our brains are just that. Existing and being instead of doing is outside of us.
As humans, we only know the right the wrong, yes and no, better and worse. It is our nature to categorize. It takes work to drop the category and just be.
By accepting our nature and recognizing our nature we can break free from it.
Accept the fact that we assign meaning to every action around us. After recognizing, we get to define the future meaning and how we live into them.
Let go of trying to control somone’s experience in religion or not. Show up exactly as the light that you are. They may choose to follow or ponder. If not today, you will enlighten them or show them a path in their future.
Love is not limited and knows no bounds. You don’t love one person, just like you do not love one child more than you love another.
Don’t waste your light on frustration or control. Recognize the emotion (joy, frustration, irritation) as an emotion and move on. Emotions are not you. They are a human experience. Instead, channel that energy to take an action that inspires you.
And so it is.
These are 5 things that will help set your online dating profile apart for the mediocre and help you communicate who you are through the screen.
I was on vacation alone in Fort Lauderdale, FL (I do this every other year) and I decided to take myself to dinner. I put on a favorite dress and a pair of new pink flip-flops and allowed Google to give me walking directions to a restaurant on the causeway.
The staff seated me on the dock at The Pirates Republic while the owner of the restaurant suggested a meal for me. My back was facing towards the restaurant and I sat in peace, drink in hand, watching the sun set over the water.
My time alone turned into a dateless date when three hilarious gentleman were seated behind me. I could tell by their voices that they were in the age range of 55-65 and then then one of their son’s who was 20 joined them.
As the evening evolved these three made me laugh and their advice to each other and conversation were pure GOLD. Man A was trying to give advice to Man B about what to do with his Match.com profile to get him to stand out. The three decided that you shouldn’t marry someone unless you’ve been together for 5 years and been living together for 18 months.
I paid for my meal. I got up to leave and finally got to turn around to see the faces of the three men. I thanked them for making my evening very entertaining.
I told Man A that I had double the number of first dates that he had been on. They were so intrigued, they asked me to join them. I confirmed and suggested to all three that coffee dates are the perfect way to meet someone. You can tell if they are interest within the first 5 minutes, so there is no reason to spend more than $5.
To Man B, I began to describe the “big 5” that I suggested he needed to include in his dating profile.
These are my 5 things to include in your profile:
I described to the group how I would have put these into practice.
Overall there are plenty of things that you can include but setting yourself apart from the masses will allow you to sort out the individuals that are not actually interested. I also suggested that you talk about yourself vs. what you’re looking for.
If they don’t like what you have to say then it doesn’t matter if they can keep up. Don’t be general, be specific so both of you can move past the “fluff.”
I quickly helped Man B talk through some starting points. He started with this list:
This list turned into the following
I made sure they knew that they needed to set standards for both themselves and a partner. Take a serious look at their online profiles and don’t just say “Hey”. She is never going to respond if that’s all you say.
I feel like the few minutes I spent with them made an impact and they not only laughed but also will take a serious look at their online profiles. Be strong, have conviction and don’t settle.
Prior to leaving, I looked at the son and said. “I am from Wisconsin, we are not all crazy.”
Featured Photo: Jameson on the rocks, a whole red snapper at the Pirates Republic in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. The atmosphere is relaxed, the food is fantastic and the staff are top notch! I recommend everyone check this place out!
I love cake.
Having minimal macros can make this difficult so i needed to write a recipe that was quick and delicious!
509 cal /cake
55C | 10F | 54P | 13Fib
Topping not included
All we have is this exact moment. Sit and think on that for a minute. Silence the little voice inside you and really just be.
3 deep breaths.
By always trying it make things perfect you are limiting yourself. There is only right now. Be free from the could, should, woulda of life and step into now. Be free from yesterday, 5 minutes ago and even tomorrow.
The concept of “perfect” is the judgement of the way things are in this moment. You can strive for greatness but looking for the imperfections of the moment is assigning the meaning of not good enough.
I challenge you to set yourself free and just go live all of life.
Making life interesting is on the edge. Perfect is safe. You get to edit, spend your time pondering and judging on the ways the past, the present or worry about the future isn’t the way you dreamt.
Take one step beyond the edge of reason and stepping into he right now of the situation.
Interesting is no going to be pretty but it is going to be worth it.
Don’t miss out on life and don’t grow old with any regrets for the things that you missed out on.
And so it is.
Step 1: Stab with knife
Step 2: Place on microwave safe plate or bowl
Step 3: Cover with plastic wrap
Step 4: Microwave 12 minutes
Step 5: Split open and scoop out seeds
Step 6: Scoop flesh into strainer
Step 7: Forget while you do 10 other things in the kitchen (about 10 mins)
Step 8: Serve
The reality is that I hate doing the dishes but I also use an insane amount of Tupperware during the week. When I get home every day from work I have about 3-5 bags with me that I dump in the living room. I don’t wash the table besides once a week. I wash my hair maybe 2-3 times per week and shave my legs probably 2 times per week. My kitchen is tiny and I live alone.
When I am around my friends they see the chaos and the mess in the kitchen but if you open the fridge it is organized AF!!!
I do chores throughout the week but typically wait for Friday night clean up all the dishes. And by Sunday the house is ready for another week of messes.
A relationship had developed from strictly fiends to potentially more. (It’s all in the context). He has only seen me as the hot mess friend. A whirlwind of dirty hair, gym clothes, Tupperware and an artistic flare. As soon as the context changed… I changed.
I walked into the house and found it in its typical messy insanity. Dishes everywhere and out of order.
In the context of friends… he had seen my house a mess and me in just sweats, wet hair and glasses.
Now in this new context of possibly moving the relationship from friends to potentially more the mess wasn’t presentable.
I walked in and there is a mound of dishes! I knew I didn’t have time to wash them so… this happened.
Yep… I shoved all the dishes underneath the sink. Then there were still more dishes so I filled my work cooler. I dry shaved my legs, put on clean clothes, took down my hair (this never happens), wiped down the table, shoved my work bags into a closet and started cooking for us.
It is amazing what you will do to look good in fear of looking bad. I am writing this and laughing at myself. I am committed to showing up as the real human. No more fear, just reality.
And so it is.
Flexible dieting is a style of dieting that is based around counting the three main macro-nutrients that you consume daily (carbohydrates, protein and fat). This style of diet can lead to long term success because of its ability to be less strict. You are able to choose the foods you want to eat and when you want to eat them.
The word gets a bad reputation because 95% of them fail. The reason they fail is because they are a short term solution, are unrealistic and unsustainable. Most dieters attempt to lose weight and reach goals by making radical changes and completely restrict themselves from eating a certain foods or entire groups all together. Going between the extremes often results in a failed diet attempt. Flexible dieting allows you to find balance.
Feel free to eat as many or few meals as you desire. The most important factor is total daily calories. As long as you hit your target macro-nutrients goal for the day, it doesn’t matter if you have 2 meals or 10 meals.
To optimize performance and recovery around exercise, I recommend a higher amount of quick digesting carbs before and after a workout with a lower amount of protein and low fat.
This recipe takes under 15 minutes and it’s fantastic. The extra broth gives it a Pho-flare.
388 cal /serving
12C | 18F | 46P | 3Fib
Ingredients (2 servings):
Start by making your zoodles. My mom bought me this contraption for my birthday and it makes straight spaghetti out of my zucchini. I peel as much as I can to make zoodles and then I shred the middle with a grater and use it in my pancakes.
I then sauté the shrimp in garlic until they are pink/cooked.
I then add my zoodles.
As soon as the zoodles are on the heat, I add my liquids and seasonings (bone broth, lemon juice, and coconut oil, Old Bay, black pepper and seafood seasoning). Stir occasionally until the zoodles are the right texture. There will be extra liquid, which makes it pho-like.